Status quo - Its Complicated

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This is a touching story but still I decided to pen it down only because someone told me only an experienced person can let somebody see the right path. I feel joyful for Ryan because he didn’t fail however shoddily people sought after him. He began to realise how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. He taught himself that if you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it with full speed. You can’t loose what is not yours, but if you don’t try it won’t be yours too, embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good, hot is not excellent either.

Today, after four years of Ryan’s and Kheya’s painful separation they stand poles apart. Happy or sad I can’t tell as its vague measure but I can see clearly what wins at last, that’s ‘Truth’. Today Its Ryan’s b’day and launch of his second book “Far from Flawless”. Still his passion for perfection haven’t ended, his earlier book sold more than a million copies but still he prefer writing blogs which have more than a lakh fb likes now. He says everything that goes, comes back sometime through another person.

After separation Ryan tried to figure out what went wrong, and the truth was chock-full of discomfort but he never talked about Kheya’s betrayal in public, he submerged the fact somewhere deep inside his heavy heart. If Love is about passion and scarifies then grief of love has its own degree of pain. Almost everyone who has lost something very precious in life experience the five stage of grief. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance phases come in everyone’s life, sometime we do understand, sometime it spread across years. Ryan too entered into the same and deeply. 

One evening when Ryan was high on alcohol the person next to him said one incident from His highness Dalai Lama’s book, same night he managed to get a copy of the book from store and read it to the end.

When we loose something, we try to find that thing despite of the fact its not there. We build hope and then we start loosing it. The cycle continues and once we realise that its no more there a big part of our life is already gone and we are not the same person anymore.

If Friendship has a definition then four friends of Ryan fits every clause of it. While Ryan abandoned his food and sleep, his closest friends helped him to stay alive. They couldn’t be by his side physically still one of them made sure he had his lunch while another kept him busy in phone calls and chat.  Virtually they made an invisible circle around him and encouraged him to bypass the five stages of grief as quickly possible, it was foolishness to wait for someone who never loved him. Kheya preferred the person who was settled better in life and earned handsome. She gave preference to her choice over the truth who loved her more. This is what exactly we all feel today, one can’t hide the truth for long, and one by one they surface.

But what else helped Ryan to come out of this other than his friends help & book of Dalai Lama? Ryan didn’t want to answer this but then after much request he said this to us.

Ryan said “I was not strong to accept the fact that she cheated on me, nor I was able to forget her. She was in every bit of my life. The only solution was to kill her virtually. Now, For me Kheya is dead, so whenever her thought comes in my mind I try to end it with the scene when last time I saw her physically, she was waving her hand while entering the airport gate, I made myself to believe that the plane crashed.”

The day Ryan told me this I didn’t get a sleep. How tough it is to picture someone dead and celebrate her birthday alone, putting aside the first cake of own birthday for her when she is enjoying her life with someone else. Ryan’s determination to remove her living existence from his life tells the whole thing, how strong love could be. He always had been a role model of love, many people gathered courage to speak about their love as he guided them. Despite of his disgusted state of mind he continued to solve problems he was master in. Many people didn’t know, but being one of his closest friends I know how Ryan managed all these. Love doesn’t fail, we fail it.

Ryan’s Moksha didn’t come in one day. He was burning and made himself a devdas for some days, but his journey was not to end there, he was a true stallion.  When love guru’s own love life fails he looses the title but Ryan didn’t. He was still considered the best person to patch broken heart. He said he can’t desert Love only because he failed, he believes love can happen twice but surely not in parallel.

He left his job and Delhi, there were too much memories of Kheya. Running away is not a good solution but sometime there is no other way. Himalayas and Arabian Sea taught him to be strong, he started roaming around to find peace and clicking what he found touching. Then one fine day renowned photographer Trey Ratcliff offered him internship after seeing his photography. With him he started seeing places and clicking the beautiful world. In parallel he continued to write his blogs & stories, two years back his first bestseller book “Life is Beautiful, * Conditions Apply” hit the stand.

 Now the obvious question comes did Ryan had arranged marriage?

You say can love-guru do arrange marriage??

One year back his Nikon lens framed someone and for second time in life Ryan fell in love with those beautiful eyes. If eyes are for seeing then beauty has its own reason of being.

To the four Best Friends of mine

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